The power of boundaries in our every day life is tremendous. Boundaries set the foundation for every type of relationship. From that intimate personal love to the relationship you have with your boss and coworkers. Setting healthy boundaries is an important part of self care and self love. Having healthy boundaries means establishing your limits and clearly expressing them and respecting them. If you don’t respect your own boundaries you can’t expect others to.
Boundaries are a way to take care of yourself. When you understand how to set and maintain healthy boundaries, you can avoid the feelings of resentment, disappointment, and anger that build up when others have crossed your boundaries. Most people when they hear the word boundary think of a fence or wall or other physical object that clearly defines the limit of a space. Your space is sacred and needs to be protected by clearly expressing your limits.
Loose or Tight
There are different types of boundaries, some are loose and flexible, like the ones you have with friends and family. Others are Tight and strict like those you have at work or with people you don’t know. Having tight boundaries can keep people away, they might make you seem detached even to your partner, they possibly could keep you from making new friends, at the extreme level you might even avoid close relationships due to too tight of boundaries.
Having loose boundaries can really be more damaging and lead to more problems. You might have trouble telling people “No”, or oversharing personal information, this could lead to you getting caught up in the problems of others, you might feel the need to please or help others because of the fear of rejection.
Healthy boundaries are a two way street. Moderation is the key to personal boundaries. Learning about yourself is crucial so you understand if you’re sharing too much of too little. Others need to respect when you say no, however this means you need to respect when others say no as well. Know your limits and don’t be afraid to speak up if anyone crosses your boundaries. If someone continues to overstep your boundaries then you need to protect your space by removing this person until they learn to accept your boundaries.
Benefits Of Healthy Boundaries
The power of boundaries is shown in our physical and mental states. Having healthy boundaries helps you avoid a burn out. This means not sharing yourself with everyone that comes to you with their needs. For example, you’ll be able to manage your time, making the much needed time for yourself. Furthermore, establishing healthy boundaries lowers your stress levels. Which means lower cortisol levels in your body preventing other issues. If you deal with anxiety, boundaries will help greatly with lowering your anxiety. Also this will help give you greater sense of self esteem.
Setting healthy boundaries starts with practicing mindfulness and understanding yourself. To clarify, this means knowing what you like and what you don’t like. Which leads to understanding your priorities. If you don’t like or tolerate something speak up and don’t let others get away with it. Saying No is hard for a lot of people, so get ready for the discomfort of saying no as well as defining your boundaries with others. The power of boundaries will set you free. Take a moment and reflect on who you are and what you stand for.
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